"Let's do this." An order implying co-participation often meaning "you do this." Used by bosses who don't own up to the fact that they are giving an order. If you do give an order, own it.
It sounds team-oriented, doesn’t it? But all too often, it really means “You do this.” This phrase is a common way for leaders to give orders without admitting it, disguising authority as co-participation. While it might seem harmless, it can cause confusion and chip away at trust when the leader isn’t actually part of the action.
Intent-Based Leadership challenges us to be clear and accountable in how we communicate. If you’re giving an order, own it. There are times when giving a clear directive is necessary—emergencies, for example, demand decisive action. But clarity and honesty matter. Pretending to work alongside your team while subtly passing responsibility undermines both trust and effectiveness.
Owning your orders doesn’t mean being authoritarian. It means acknowledging your role and setting clear expectations. At the same time, reflect on whether a directive is the best approach in the moment. Could you ask instead of tell? Could you create space for your team to take the lead and own the outcome?
When leaders communicate transparently and take responsibility for their words, it strengthens relationships. Teams that feel respected and trusted respond with greater accountability and initiative. That’s the foundation of Intent-Based Leadership—not avoiding orders but using them with purpose and integrity.
So, the next time “Let’s do this” comes to mind, ask yourself: Am I truly participating, or am I sidestepping ownership? If it’s the latter, say what you mean. Honest leadership builds stronger teams and better results.
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